What does the Bible say
about spousal abuse?
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Question: What does the Bible teach about spousal (domestic) abuse? Is it a good enough reason to get a divorce?
Answer: Before I tackle your question on spousal abuse, something must be said about divorce. In regard to divorce, Jesus stated that it is because of the hardness of people's hearts that God allowed divorce in the first place (Mark 10:2 - 12). God is looking for a commitment from people whom He has called to His way of life. We live in a throw-away world. The minute something doesn't work, it immediately gets tossed out when it could have perhaps been fixed. We should do all we possibly can to save a marriage before ending it. The effects of a broken home last for many years.
That said, in the case of spousal abuse, we must also consider that our bodies and minds are the temple of God. One should not remain in an abusive home if they can help it. Physical, mental or emotional abuse in any marriage is UNACCEPTABLE to God. If one is truly converted to God and His way of life, they will become God's temple. He will live in them and walk among them in Spirit, be their God, and they will be His people. The New Covenant, discussed in several different places in the Bible, is the agreement God offers man so that he can live forever. God looks at the temple of our hearts and minds and welcomes those who by their conscience have been keeping themselves separate (as much as possible) from sin and Satan the devil (the ruler and deceiver of this present evil world - Revelation 12:9).
God commands us to be holy, pure, and not to defile ourselves with sin (2Corinthians 6:17, 1Corinthians 3:16 - 17). When a person is converted they are willing to keep a commitment to God and walk in His Ways (Psalm 119:165, Proverbs 6:23). True Christians must put God first in their life (Deuteronomy 30:15 - 16).
In the New Testament Paul gives us several important principles and addresses the issue of how husbands and wives should treat each other in chapter 7 of 1Corinthians.