The definition of the four Greek words used to describe the various types of love are the following. Eros is sexual or romantic in nature and is not in the Bible. Phileo is a brotherly affection toward someone we really like. Agape, which is the deepest love, means doing good things for another person. Storgay refers to loving one's relatives. It is a relatively unknown term that is used only two times in scripture and only as a compound.
Even though the two Greek words PHILEO and AGAPE for love are in scripture, they can sometimes cause confusion. For example, one passage that is not clear in the Bible is the one that highlights the difference between AGAPE and PHILEO.
Peter had denied Jesus three times while he was on trial (Matthew 26:44, Matthew 26:69 - 75). Jesus seems to be reminding Peter of his three denials with his three-time questioning of him in John 21. Unfortunately, English translations of Scripture hide an important part of the three questions.
In the 15th verse of John 21 Jesus asks Peter is he loves (Greek: agape) him more than others. Peter's response is 'You know that I love (Greek: phileo) You.' Notice that Jesus is using "agape" while Peter is answering with "phileo." Jesus asks virtually the same question again, using the same Greek word he initially used, and Peter's responds AGAIN with the same one he used (verse 16)!
The Lord then quizzes his friend a third and final time regarding their relationship (verse 17). This time, however, Christ uses the phileo for love, dropping the requirement for Peter to respond only to brotherly affection. Pete notices the change and is grieved at how many times his relationship to Jesus is questioned.
What is the definition of the Greek "agape" in the Bible? In Mark 12 we find Jesus stating the following.
|And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength (Mark 12:30)|
Here the word Jesus used was "agape." What does the book of James say about God's law?
"If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself,' you do well; " (James 2:8)
The first four commandments of God's law tell us how we are to treat Him. God also is our neighbor in the universe (Jeremiah 12:14). He is the neighbor that rules. Therefore, we see that loving him and our fellow man - as translated from the Greek Agape – manifests itself by keeping his commandments. It is not just FEELING good but it is DOING good as Paul writes, ". . . love is the fulfillment of the law" (Romans 13:10).
A special relationship
Besides keeping all God's commandments, the true church of God is to have a special family relationship. Here is where the Greek STORGAY is within a compound word with PHILEO. The KJV states that Paul taught that those who believe in God should act and think a certain way.
"Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; " (Romans 12:10)
The word translated as "kindly affectionate" is philostorgos (Strong's Concordance #G5387) and means a loving friendship-family relationship. One day when Jesus taught the crowds, his mother Mary and his brothers came to visit him. When he was told his mother and brothers came to see him Jesus said the following.
"But He answered them, saying, 'Who is My mother, or My brothers? . . . For whoever does the will of God is My brother and My sister and mother.' " (Mark 3:33, 35).
Believers, just like Jesus, are commanded in the Bible to consider and treat those who obey God and do His will as if they were close family members! This is the definition of love in the Greek-written word of God.