Q. What does it mean to defile the marriage bed? Are there any do's and dont's when it comes to the marriage bed? In other words, are there things that shouldn't be done? (Submitted by: Mary) A. You asked the question regarding the Biblical do's and don'ts as far as defiling the marriage bed. It is stated clearly in 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 : "Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
"Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. " (1Corinthians 7:1-5, NKJV) First and foremost, sex should only occur between married couples (1 Corinthians 7:1-2). Secondly, each mate should consider the sexual needs of the other and be sure each of you are concerned for each other's welfare and capabilities (verse 3). In marriage, each person should regard their bodies as belonging to their mate (verse 4). You are only to refrain from sex with each other by mutual agreement such as fasting or when the woman has her period (verse 7:5). Aside from the above the Bible does not put any further restrictions on how a married couple perform sexually. |
