What is an undefiled marriage bed?

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QUESTION: What does it mean to have an undefiled marriage bed? Is there anything sexually that should or should not be done in order to keep it acceptable to God?

ANSWER: The scripture you are referring to in regard to what it means to possess an undefiled marriage bed (assuming, of course, that the couple is a man and a woman, not two men or two women) between a couple is found in Hebrews 13. The chapter begins with a variety of admonitions by the apostle Paul, such loving each other, showing hospitality to guests, and taking care of those people who are prisoners for the sake of the gospel (Hebrews 13:1 - 3). In verse 4 he admonishes all his readers to remember that marriage is an honorable institution, ordained by God, and that the union he sanctioned be kept sexually undefiled.

4. Let marriage be held honorable by all, and the marital union be undefiled; for God will judge fornicators and adulterers (Hebrews 13:4, HBFV).

The Greek word translated "undefiled" is amiantos, Strong's Concordance #G283, which literally means unsoiled or pure. Thayer's Greek Definitions further expands the definition by stating it is "free from that by which the nature of a thing is deformed and debased, or its force and vigor impaired." This verse is clearly discussing the sexual aspect of marriage as Paul also mentions the Eternal's judgment upon those indulging in sinful sex-based behavior such as adultery.

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To understand what it means to have an undefiled martial relationship, we need to know what can defile it. The Old Testament has plenty to say regarding how a person can pollute themselves through sex. As was stated previously, adultery is clearly unacceptable behavior (Exodus 20:14, Leviticus 18:20). We are also commanded not to have intercourse with animals (Leviticus 18:23) or with a person within our own family (see our article on incest). Any sex between those of the same gender (even if the governing authorities allow same-sex marriage), known as homosexuality and lesbianism, is also expressly forbidden (Leviticus 18:22 - 24). Avoiding these and other illicit practices will help to keep the sexual relationship with one's partner pure.

It should also be stated that although the Bible does not forbid anal sex between a husband and wife, it may not be wise to indulge in it for health reasons. It would also not be the better part of wisdom for a couple to engage in intercourse during a woman's period.

The book of 1Corinthians offers us a few principles regarding the proper sexual behavior within marriage that is the foundation of a union that is pure and undefiled. Both the husband and the wife need to seriously consider their mate's sexual needs and their capabilities. Each person should regard their bodies as belonging to their mate and not under their own total control to do with it whatever they please. Intercourse should be refrained from only by mutual agreement for the purpose of fasting and prayer, after which time the couple should come together so that they are not tempted to fulfill their needs elsewhere (1Corinthians 7: 1 - 5).

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