ANSWER: I, a female believer like you, am just as frustrated in regards to people judging others, especially women, whether it is their hair, or clothing or even how they behave before they get to know the individual and understand why or who they are. This is not following the teachings of Jesus Christ in the Bible, which tell us to bear with one another and not to judge unless we want to be judged in the same way.
I had short hair in my younger days because it was the easiest for me to take care of since I did not care as much about the latest in styles or making a fashion statement. I just wanted it, whether at work or at play or at church, to be in control when I was out in public. Now that I am retired and have little money to spend at a beauty salon I wear it long and pin it up into some kind of comfortable style that is neat and out of my face.
The apostle Paul taught that long locks on MARRIED women (and not all females regardless of their marital status) was her glory and that men who wear their's long (with the exception of those who are under a Nazarite vow) was shameful. In his letter to the Corinthian church, he states the following "obvious" fact regarding this issue.
|14. Or does not even nature itself teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a shame to him? 15. But if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her . . . (1Corinthians 11:14 - 15, HBFV)|
Hair was worn, in the first century culture to which Paul was addressing, as a way a married female should respect toward her mate.
Wearing hair shorter or longer is a matter of personal choice. If you feel uncomfortable around certain people, you may want to assess why you do what you do. Try asking the other females who judge so harshly why they are doing so. If you feel comfortable wearing you locks anywhere between your ear lobes and your knees then wear it that way in faith and with a clean conscience (Romans 14:23).
Women should be proud of how God made them and enjoy their femininity. Things of this life like hair are only temporary. The apostle Peter, however, reminds us what IS lasting and what is truly the MOST important adornment we can possess.
3 You should not use outward aids to make yourselves beautiful . . . 4 Instead, your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest value in God's sight (1Peter 3:3 - 4)
All believers should bear with and encourage one another over such things as hair length (be it long or short), clothes, jewelry like earrings and rings, and other non-salvation issues. We are to worship God in spirit and in truth, obey the law and offer justice in a fair and balance way (John 4:24). This includes treating each other with love as we would like to be treated (John 15:12).
36. Therefore, you also be compassionate, even as your Father is compassionate. 37. And do not judge others, so that you yourself will not be judged in any way. Do not condemn others, so that you will not be condemned in any way. Forgive, and you shall be forgiven (Luke 6:36 - 37)
1. Therefore, I (Apostle Paul), the prisoner of the Lord, am exhorting you to walk worthily of the calling to which you were called 2. With all humility and meekness, with long-suffering, forbearing one another in love (Ephesians 4:1 - 2)