What does the Bible say about SEX?
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Question: Is it sinful for a couple to have sex for pleasure alone? What does the Bible say about copulation that does not lead to children?
Answer: Your question concerning sex is answered rather succinctly in the Bible in Paul's first letter to the Corinthian church.
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection (the KJV has 'due benevolence,' which is a euphemism for stating the husband owes his wife sex) due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband (provide sex for her husband). 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. . . . (1Corinthians 7:3 - 5)
There is nowhere in the Bible a command or even a suggestion that a married couple should only have sex when they are trying to have children. There is also no indication that any copulation between a couple, within the bounds of marriage, is a sin of itself. In fact, Paul states in the book of Hebrews that marriage is an honorable practice and that the marriage bed is "undefiled," meaning that there are really almost no restrictions concerning how couples may perform sexually. Paul calls the sexual relations between a married man and woman a "marital duty" and stresses that the husband and wife should not "deprive each other except by mutual consent".
In his letter to the church at Ephesus, Paul stresses the roles husbands and wives should play and how they should treat each other. So long as these guidelines in the Bible are followed, any relationship will flourish, even a childless one.
22. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord; 25. Husbands, love your own wives, in the same way that Christ also loved the church . . . 28. In the same way, husbands are duty-bound (they have an obligation before God) to love their wives . . . (Ephesians 5:22, 25, 28)
We'll say a prayer for you and your wife so that whatever is best regarding sex for the two of you in God's eyes will come to pass. May God richly bless your relationship and lead both of you into a closer relationship with him and to understanding his words.